110 – Froswa’ Booker-Drew – Grow + Connect + Engage

Froswa' Booker-Drew, Rules of Engagement

In this episode, Tim has a conversation with Froswa’ Booker-Drew. Froswa believes that Social Capital is critical and spends her days weaving people together via networking and connecting. Booker-Drew is a relational leadership junkie. Relationships, when cultivated well, are powerful and transformative. Tim and Froswa’ keep it real and go deep with real-life challenges that keep people from experiencing true growth, connections, and engagement. Enjoy!

THE CONVERSATION:

  • Growing up in the deep south
  • How she didn’t stay ‘STUCK’ as a child with limited resources and lack of opportunities
  • How her relationships and family helped her see there is more out there beyond ‘LUCK’
  • Which is greater, your own power or privilege?
  • Life can be ‘Both-And …’
  • Thoughts on: Opinions, Beliefs, and Values
  • The importance of finding spaces of reflection and feedback loops
  • The problem with not letting people hurt and feel pain
  • Being on the balcony and being on the dancefloor (The Practice of Adaptive Leadership by Ronald A. Heifetz)
  • Understanding that people are not machines and they need to be the totality of who they are
  • Learning to be still in silence. The Silence Retreat
  • We are not human ‘DOERS’ we are human ‘BEINGS’
  • Replacing the technology connections with real face-to-face conversations
  • The struggle people have to identify and share the descriptors of who they are beyond the surface or obvious
  • The lost desire for CURIOSITY and INNOVATION
  • People are creating but not being creative
  • The power of saying, I AM and what it’s paired with
  • Overcomplicating things that are simple
  • Examining your own narrative
  • What do you focus on?
  • Are you the common denominator in less than desired situations and circumstances?
  • The value of openness and vulnerability
  • An UPHILL challenge Froswa’ experienced and what she did to overcome

RESOURCES:

Rules of Engagement by Froswa Booker-Drew

Videos of Dr. Froswa’ Booker-Drew

BOOK REFERENCES:

Walk on Water by Madeline L’Engle

From Here to There by Don Miguel Ruiz

CONNECT WITH THANE:

Website: froswasrules.com

LinkedIn:in/froswabookerdrew

Twitter: @Froswa

ABOUT FROSWA:

Dr. Froswa’ Booker-Drew
Vice President, Community Affairs and Strategic Alliances at State Fair of Texas®

I am intrigued by relationships, particularly building networks to address issues in organizations and communities. Because of my extensive background in leadership, nonprofit management, partnership development, training and education, I’ve been quoted in Forbes, Ozy, Bustle, Huffington Post and other media outlets around the world. As Vice President of Community Affairs for the State Fair of Texas, I lead a department focused on community initiatives, educational programming, partnerships, and philanthropy.

In addition, I have been asked to speak on a variety of topics such as social capital and networking, leadership, diversity, and community development to national and international audiences. This included serving as a workshop presenter at the United Nations in 2013 on the Access to Power. One of the most impactful life events for me was being a part of the documentary, Friendly Captivity, a film that followed a cast of 7 women from Dallas to India.

I consider myself so fortunate to be honored for my work which includes: Semi-finalist for the SMU TEDx in 2012, 2012 Outstanding African American Alumni Award from the University of Texas at Arlington, 2009 Woman of the Year Award by Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and Diversity Ambassador for the American Red Cross.

Graduating with a Ph.D. from Antioch University in Leadership and Change with a focus on social capital and relational leadership has offered me the opportunity to have a scholar/practitioner lens in all I do. I attended the Jean Baker Miller Institute at Wellesley for training in Relational-Cultural Theory and completed facilitator training on Immunity to Change based on the work of Kegan and Lahey of Harvard. I have also completed training through UNICEF on Equity-Based Evaluations. I am the author of 2 workbooks for women, Ready for a Revolution: 30 Days to Jolt Your Life and Rules of Engagement: Making Connections Last as well as a writer for several publications around the globe.

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109 – One Word for the New Year

Tim Pecoraro, 2019, New Year

In this episode, Tim shares his journey and process of working through the choices and decisions he made prior to 2018 and the divine intervention that helped him course correct. Tim reveals how he had to take himself back to what he knows to be true about himself and his purpose. Ultimately getting to his One Word and his true North for 2019 and beyond. Enjoy!

FIND YOUR ONE WORD:

  1. Take the time to review the last year
  2. Ask yourself – What went well?
  3. Ask yourself – What didn’t go well?
  4. Ask yourself – What did I learn?
  5. Ask yourself – Where am I headed? What do I want to go now and next?
  6. Share + Invite others in – your inner-circle is vital for:
    • Challenge
    • Accountability
    • Connection
    • Empathy
    • Value
    • Learning

INTRO AND OUTRO MUSIC (Used by permission):
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108: Thane Ringler – From Here to There

Thane Ringler, Thane Marcus Ringler, From Here to There

In this episode, Tim has a conversation with Thane Ringler, a former pro golfer turned writer, speaker, collaborator, and entrepreneur living in Los Angeles, CA. After competing for nearly four years as a professional, he transitioned out of the world of golf into his new endeavors. Ringler brings fresh insight and value to those who desire to a life of mastery! This interview is inspiring, helpful and is applicable to all things life.

THE CONVERSATION:

  • Understanding your current place in life beyond your age
  • Winning and competing
  • Adding + learning the layers as you progress
  • The process and the experience
  • Taking the time to examine, look-back and reflect
  • Developing liquid knowledge
  • The concept of peaking too soon
  • The two overarching themes in the book:
    • #1 Take ownership individually of our lives
    • #2 Never settle for less than we are capable of
  • The default response of ‘SETTLING’
  • The importance of believing and preaching the truth
  • Being FAITHFUL
  • Developing Self-awareness
    • Starts (and ends) with reflection
    • Seek conflict
    • Seek challenge
    • Seek outside perspective
    • Use tools
    • Learn from living
    • Practice humility
    • Value listening above talking
      • 4 Step Path
        • Observation
        • Evaluation
        • Correction
        • Ingraining
  • Discovering, understanding, and optimizing
  • Questions that are important to ask yourself
  • The 5 P’s of Mastery
    • Purpose
    • Preparation
    • Process
    • Patience
    • Persistence
  • Having a ‘WORD’ for the year
  • Three things Thane is optimistic about over the next twelve months

RESOURCES:

From Here to There by Thane Marcus Ringler

BOOK REFERENCES:

Strangers to Ourselves by Timothy D. Watson

Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud

CONNECT WITH THANE:

Website: thanemarcus.com

Instagram: @thanemarcus

LinkedIn: in/thaneringler/

Facebook: @thane.ringler

Twitter: @thanemarcus

ABOUT THANE:

Thane Marcus Ringler is a former pro golfer turned writer, speaker, collaborator, and entrepreneur living in Los Angeles, CA. After competing for nearly four years as a professional, he transitioned out of the world of golf into his new endeavors.

In his current work, Thane is coming alongside freelancers, business owners, and entrepreneurs to help them by taking the professional athlete’s mindset to everyday people in everyday life. He is passionate about speaking to the journey from the journey and wants to empower this generation to take ownership of their lives and never settle for less than they are capable of. He is also the host of The Up & Comers Show, a podcast all about learning how to live a good life.

INTRO AND OUTRO MUSIC (Used by permission):
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107: Liz Fosslien – No Hard Feelings

Liz Fosslien, Elisabeth Fosslien, LizandMollie

In this episode, Tim has a conversation with Liz Fosslien, author and illustrator of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work. Liz shares her journey of self-discovery, fulfillment and finding her ‘Forever’work. Fosslien brings a fresh perspective to those of us who want to embrace and feel our feelings.

THE CONVERSATION:

  • Meet Liz
  • Dealing with the dream job not working out and how Liz moved beyond the disappointment
  • Going through a period of being upset and down
  • The value of reflection for discovery
  • Being an introvert
  • Her journey to discover her ‘FOREVER’ work + fulfillment
  • The power of little things and living in the present
  • Experiencing moments of delight in everything you do
  • The false dichotomy of emotion being on one side and reason on the other
  • Permission to feel emotions
  • The importance of building in the small habits that lead you to the goal that you want
  • The importance of increasing the chances to wake up great
  • The story of Liz and Mollie and how they started working together
  • The combo of illustration and neuroscience as a great first step
  • Emotions in the workplace
  • Using cookies as a means to have safe conversations
  • About the book,  No Hard Feelings
  • The gross feeling of envy
  • Instead of envy ask to learn and be taught
  • Really good on-boarding and ‘The Enterview’ (Enter + Interview)
  • How small actions send big signals
  • Feel your feelings + Be kind to yourself
  • Three things Liz is optimistic about over the next twelve months

RESOURCES:

No Hard Feelings by Liz Fosslien

Newsletter: Liz + Mollie

Blog: Liz + Mollie

CONNECT WITH LIZ:

Website: www.fosslien.com

Instagram: @lizandmollie

LinkedIn: in/liz-fosslien

Facebook: @lizfosslien

Twitter: @fosslien

ABOUT LIZ:

Liz Fosslien is the author and illustrator of No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work. Her work has been featured by The Economist, The Financial Times, NPR, and CNN.

Liz spent the past three years designing and facilitating workshops that empowered executives at LinkedIn, Facebook, Google, BlackRock, and Nike to build cultures of belonging. Previously, she led product and community projects at Genius and ran statistical analyses at the aptly named Analysis Group. She starts each day by eating yogurt and reading abstracts from recently published academic papers.

INTRO AND OUTRO MUSIC (Used by permission):
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106: Mary Shores – The Communication Code

Mary Shores, Conscious Communications, Fearless Ambition

In this episode, Tim has another great conversation with Mary Shores, recognized as a leader of innovative thought. Mary shares a powerful yet practical method and approach she calls “The Communication Code”. If you desire better interactions and connections, personally and professionally, you don’t want to miss this conversation.

THE CONVERSATION:

  • Breaking down and understanding the simple approach of  “Cleanse or Clog”
  • Applying the “Cleanse or Clog” method + the impact
  • Defining empowerment
  • Living your journey v. Living the dream life
  • Looking at things through the proper lens of perception
  • Make decisions from the proper lens of perception
  • Learning The Communication Code: 3 Rules + 3 Step Process
    • The 3 Rules
      • Rule 1 –  Understand how we trigger one another
      • Rule 2 – Replace negative words with ones that will actually work to create deep connections
      • Rule 3 – Start always by saying what you can do, not what you can’t do
    • The 3 Step Process
      • Step 1 – Validate the other person (non-negotiable)
      • Step 2 – Plant a seed of happiness for a positive outcome (the easy step)
      • Step 3 – Use an action statement
  • What people have learned and discovered using “The Communication Code”
  • Wrapping it all up

RESOURCES:

Conscious Communications by Mary Shores

CONNECT WITH MARY:

Website: www.maryshores.com

Instagram: @mary_shores

LinkedIn: in/shoresmary

Facebook: @shoresmary

Twitter: @mary_shores

Pinterest: shores_mary

Youtube: Mary Shores

ABOUT MARY:

Mary Shores is the author of Conscious Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, she has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to identify their goals, create new ways of thinking, and take action to create meaningful results. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.

INTRO AND OUTRO MUSIC (Used by permission):
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Uphill Conversations is an Uphill Strategies, LLC production © 2016 – 2018 Uphill Conversations

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